The best way out is always through

http://www.slate.com/id/2150153

I am still fretting. Haha..it’s become my de facto modus operandi.

But of course, I must not give up trying to eradicate or lessen that aspect of myself!

Last night was a case-in-point. I decided to be happy and I was. We had a lovely time eating, chatting, and strolling. Everyday can be a day filled with laughter and affection, even if ’serious’ matters need to be discussed. In fact, all the more we should be cuddly and co-operative and supportive during stressful periods! There are no problems so long as we don’t perceive them to be as such. Heard that, Mummy?

It’s going to be an okay day. Breathe, Piggy

When I was a child I sat an exam.
The test was so simple
There was no way I could fail.

Q1. Describe the taste of the moon.

It tastes like Creation I wrote,
it has the flavour of starlight.

Q2. What colour is Love?

Love is the colour of the water a man
lost in the desert finds, I wrote.

Q3. Why do snowflakes melt?

I wrote, they melt because they fall
onto the warm tongue of God.

There were other questions.
They were as simple.

I described the grief of Adam when he was expelled from Eden.
I wrote down the exact weight of an elephant’s dream.

Yet today, many years later,
For my living I sweep the streets
or clean out the toilets of the fat hotels.

Why? Because I constantly failed my exams.
Why? Well, let me set a test.

Everytime someone finds balance in life, it is quickly toppled.

There is no such thing as a state of balance.

Balance is found when one realises that there is no such thing as balance.

Constant reajudstment to constant flux is the only way to acheive balance.

 

Important Leisure Reading 

Note to Self: When realisation hits me, don’t be too quick to justify and reject or react. Make informed choices, not choices that are fickle and dictated by whim, fancy, mood and emotion. Exceptions apply to gut/heart

http://www.oldandsold.com/articles06/memory-38.shtml

Developing discipline in Martial Arts and Life

http://www.geocities.com/koryotkd99/USTUArticleI.htm

CULTIVATING MENTAL DISCIPLINE: The Skill of Mindfulness

http://www.steveshealyphd.com/mind.htm

How to discipline your mind

http://www.ioa.com/~shermis/steelart.html

 

http://health.msn.com/centers/depression/articlepage.aspx?cp-documentid=100144109

 

 

I get to spend lots of time online or with my nose buried in a book. Can’t wait for Dec so I can SWIM and EAT and CYCLE and watch DVDs and make whOOpie all day! Keke.

We’ll do it all
Everything
On our own

We don’t need
Anything
Or anyone

If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me and just forget the world?

I don’t quite know
How to say
How I feel

Those three words
Are said too much
They’re not enough

If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me and just forget the world?

Forget what we’re told
Before we get too old
Show me a garden that’s bursting into life

Let’s waste time
Chasing cars
Around our heads

I need your grace
To remind me
To find my own

If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me and just forget the world?

Forget what we’re told
Before we get too old
Show me a garden that’s bursting into life

All that I am
All that I ever was
Is here in your perfect eyes, they’re all I can see

I don’t know where
Confused about how as well
Just know that these things will never change for us at all

If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me and just forget the world?

http://www.mp3.com/albums/20103048/summary.html

 

Sometimes when I’m down and all alone Just like a child without a home The love you give me keeps me hangin’ on Awww honey all I ever need is you You’re my first love, you’re my last You’re my future, you’re my past And loving you is all I ask Awww honey all I ever need is you Winters come and they go And we watch the melting snow But sure as summer follows spring All the things you do give me A reason to built my world around you Some men follow rainbows I am told Some men search for silver, some for gold But I have found my treasure In your soul, honey All I ever need is you Without our love, I’d never find the way Through ups and downs of every single day I won’t sleep at night until you say, my honey All I ever need is you

Rule #1: Always think hospitable, comfortable, cozy and practical
After that can come fashionable, sleek, dramatic or whatever pleases you. But always keep in mind that a beautifully decorated home still has to function as a home! A home is to be lived in and not just looked at. Make sure your home says, “Welcome.”

Rule #2: Decorate for your family first
Strive for a home that is truly welcoming to the people who live there. Your husband should not have to perch in chairs that feel too small. Your children should not have to avoid certain rooms. Consider every family member’s comfort and taste when making decorating decisions. And don’t fool yourself about how your family lives! If your husband watches TV a lot, don’t hide the set under a side table. Remember, other people live in your home too. It’s not just Mom’s place.

Rule #3: Buy what you love - but avoid paying retail!
The fact is that you don’t have to spend a lot to get a rich, fabulous look. Before you pay retail for anything, try garage sales, flea markets, discount stores, sales and your grandmother’s attic. Full price should be your last resort. Remember, a dollar saved is two dollars earned.

Rule #4: You don’t always have to love what you buy if it works to enhance what you love
This is an important corollary to Rule #3. If a certain side table fills a decorating need (fits that empty corner, makes an interesting statement, adds interest to your wall arrangement), if it’s affordable and if you don’t hate it, go ahead and snap it up. You can always replace it when you find something you like better. Time has a way to make you fall in love with those things you don’t initially like.

Rule #5: Work to create a pleasing ambiance
Your overall decorating goals should include creating an ambience that pleases all the senses.

A home is a place where we know we are protected and loved. It is a “trauma center” where hurt people can get well. It is a place where freedom rings. The occupants don’t have to be shaped with the same cookie cutter. Each person is encouraged to grow in his or her own direction for life. In this place called home, we can cry when we are sad and laugh with shouts of joy when we have victories.

Soothing sounds, intoxicating aromas, sumptuous textures - all these add immeasurably to the overall sense of a beautifully decorated home. A comfortable home wants a person to say, “I’m so glad to be home. This is where I can relax, recreate and recharge my battery for tomorrow.”

Rule #6: Put something alive in every room
This is one of the best ways to enhance your home’s ambience - real flowers, green plants, funky-looking cacti or a spaniel curled up on the rug. Try the sound of running water. The trickle sound of water is so relaxing. Even a goldfish in a bowl livens up a room. (However, don’t forget to feed it!)

Rule #7: Try to stage a surprise
An element of the unexpected will do wonders for your decor - an oversized picture, a shelf hung lower than usual, a red pillow in a green room, a teacup turned on its side, a wall of family portraits. The backyard and patio areas are great places for surprises. Don’t be afraid to do the unusual.

Rule #8: Don’t put out everything you own
If one lovely pitcher is good, 20 aren’t necessarily better. In other words, there’s a fine line between cozy and cluttered. Even if you love that rich Victorian look with knickknacks everywhere, try to avoid the trap of too much of everything. You can always store away your extra treasures or rotate them seasonally. Remember, too much of anything that is the same causes it all to “get lost.” Break it up with contrast.